I am back home again and ready to share the eulogy I wrote for my my mom. I shared this honor with my eldest brother and his youngest son, my nephew. I don't yet have a copy of their perfect writings but what I can say is that although we worked individually they fit together perfectly, like a continuous thread.
Welcome. We,
Alice’s seven children, 20 grandchildren and 2 great-grandchildren want to
thank you all for coming here to celebrate the beautiful life of our mother,
grandmother and great-grandmother.
She was so excited when her first, and so far, only, great grandchildren,
the twins, were born that she insisted on calling them her
greatgreat grandchildren because there were two of them.
Alice
Day was born April 15, 1916. This day just so happens to be my birthday as
well. A very special day for both of us. She was the youngest of four siblings,
all now deceased. Many of their children, my cousins, are here to celebrate
with us today.
Alice
has loved nature – animals, birds, insects, spiders, plants, flowers, from a
very early age. Her first pet was a parrot named Polly, who sang “I’m forever
blowing bubbles” and would plead her to “hurry up, hurry up, get to school”.
Since then she has had many pets: Felix, Bridget and her seven pups for seven
children, Gamma-ray, Pumpkin, and Nally, to name a few.
Over
the last few years, she became very attached to a stuffed marmelade cat from
Winnipeg that she slept with every night. Puddy was lying close to her heart,
adorned with a Liberty of London scarf and a strand of pearls when she died.
This
fashionable cat leads us to the next aspect of Mom I wanted to remind you of.
Alice was one of the most beautiful, fashionable women I have ever known. She
was a bridal model at Eaton’s, where she worked as a sales person. Her first
job. Interesting, that when she married our father George Glinski, a Polish
engineer, a new immigrant to Canada on October 12th, 1944, because
of the war she didn’t get to wear a wedding dress. She later worked at Jaeger
and cashmere became her favourite fiber. To this day none of us can remember our
dear Mom without thinking of cashmere, pearls and Shalimar perfume.
Her
army career ended when she was pregnant with her first child, my one and only
brother, Robert George. In the Catholic tradition, the family grew until there
were six daughters: Nina, Anne, Helen, Zina, Margaret, and last but never
least, Katherine. If you think it might have been hard to keep track of seven
children, you wouldn’t be wrong. I
was lost twice that I can recall; once at the convent while visiting Nina, and
another time in Macy’s department store on a family spring trip to New York
City.
Alice
was the strong one, as her husband George would readily admit. She cooked,
cleaned, and raised a large family with none of the modern amenities we have
come to depend upon. She also never drove a car or even rode a bicycle. She was
a walker, another gift she imparted to many of us. All her meals were made from
scratch and every table was set with care with attention to detail. She made
every special occasion a real celebration. “The difference between utility and
utility and beauty is the difference between a telephone pole and a spider
web.” Her favourite was Christmas, with the wonderful decorated tree, the
stockings, the fantastic feast complete with Christmas crackers and plum
pudding. In fact, we celebrated in Alice style just over three weeks ago, our
first family Christmas in her apartment. Alice dressed in her red cashmere
twinset, sitting in her comfy chair. She ate well and nodded off to sleep only
to wake up when Barry, Helen’s husband, started playing one of her favourites
‘Jingle Bells’, on the accordion. She sang along with all the gang.
Her
family was the most important thing in the world to her. She would bend over
backwards to help any of us in any way she could at any time of need. She did
so without hesitation. Even last week she said to Nina, “I hope that everyone
in my family feels better than I do today.”
Over the past few years it became our
turn to show her how much we cared in return. Zina became Mom’s right hand, and
I am sure Mom would have never made it to 93 without her unselfish devotion.
Thank you Zina.
Last week, Alice’s colon cancer
progressed to the point where we all the answered the call to come home. In the
words of Charlotte, in the story ‘Charlotte’s Web’, “You have been my friend.
That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove webs for you because I liked you.
After all, what’s a life anyway. We’re born, we live a while, we die. By
helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows
anyone’s life can stand a little of that!”.
The spider’s web has been a
persistent thread in all of our lives, beginning with our father George. On
Alice’s 90th birthday celebration, we designed a gold pendant for
her, with seven arms and a diamond “Alice” in the center, holding it together.
Chief Seattle said “Man does not weave the web of life, he is merely a strand
of it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.” When we all joined hands to minister to
our mother in her last days, we began to strengthen the strands little by
little. We could all feel this. Now, even though the anchor has left this
place, the web is held together. This is exactly what Mom would have wanted.
She would ask us all “Will I live to be 100?”. A spider lives only a year or two, but webs have been
discovered that have existed for 140 million years. Through us, Mom will live
many, many more than a hundred years.
I want to end with Alice’s view on
what constitutes a “good funeral”. She said that we should all be happy, and
afterwards share a few drinks.
I think we all honored our dear beloved mother, grandmother, elder and friend with a secret garden, a warm handmade quilt made by all of her children, her favorite music including What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong and We rise again by the Rankin family and if you look closely at that last photograph you will see smiles just like the one's she requested. Oh and of course we continued the celebration of her life with a fantastic feast and more than a few drinks.
Thanks again for all your warm thoughts and hugs. My family and I really appreciated each and every one of them. I am happy to be home again and will be back very soon with some new posts.
you honor her in such a beautiful way, and there is so much love that you can feel from the photo of all gathered together. thinking of you, and blessings to you.
Posted by: daniela | January 17, 2010 at 08:38 PM
I hug you tight, very very tight in my thoughts, right now.
I love you my friend,
x x x
___mathyld___
Posted by: Mathyld / encore petite | January 17, 2010 at 08:48 PM
What a life well lived and very well loved.
Much love to you and your family in this most difficult time.
xo,
Posted by: kelly | January 17, 2010 at 09:03 PM
very beautiful. thank you for sharing. my thoughts have gone to you often, please, take care.
Posted by: annri | January 17, 2010 at 09:13 PM
very beautiful Margie and a life well lived. big hugs to you!!!
Posted by: Karen Salva | January 17, 2010 at 09:38 PM
Thank you for sharing your mom with us, she sounds like she was an amazing and wonderful person.
Posted by: Donna | January 17, 2010 at 09:42 PM
lovely words for a lovely person. smiles at the graveside suggest a celebration of a life well lived.
Posted by: grace | January 17, 2010 at 10:17 PM
what a lovely eulogy and thanks for sharing.
keep spinning that web M.
xxx
Posted by: tiel | January 17, 2010 at 10:40 PM
Thank you so much for sharing this. With spider webs playing such a role in your life, it's no surprise to me that you crochet such beautiful "webs".
Posted by: Jessica | January 17, 2010 at 10:41 PM
Beautiful
Posted by: Lisa | January 17, 2010 at 10:51 PM
Such a beautiful tribute to your mother. She sounds like such a creative, energetic and loving person, full of elegance and good humor. Thank you for letting us have a glimpse of her life.
Posted by: Sarah | January 17, 2010 at 11:24 PM
I'm deeply touched you shared with us this wonderful tribute to your dear Mom and all your strenght. I know the web of your family will last forever, Margie, and I'm pleased to feel all of you warmed up by all the love your Mom spinned around you. A big big kiss to you.
Posted by: Nanou | January 18, 2010 at 01:15 AM
Big hugs from Clara, to you and your family!
I want to write so much here , but I havent enough english words in my brain, but you know that you are in my thoughts, sweet Margie!
Take care!
Posted by: Clara | January 18, 2010 at 01:25 AM
A lovely eulogy Margie. Your mother sounds like my grandmother (who had 8 children of her own) -
My thoughts are with you.
Posted by: jan | January 18, 2010 at 02:24 AM
Lovely words spoken from your heart and most of all lovely smiles on your faces because death of a person who loved and was loved in a full complete life should be a celebration!Ariadne from Greece!
Posted by: www.google.com/accounts/o8/id?id=AItOawn_wQ8DSe02Gw2CW9Vp66YSDwTmymetXJo | January 18, 2010 at 02:55 AM
Margie, thank you for sharing the beautiful words you wrote for your mom. Her life is a real inspiration. And thank you for sharing her view of what a funeral should be--I agree, and I'm so glad that you were able to fulfill her wishes.
Posted by: Patricia | January 18, 2010 at 04:10 AM
Beautiful Margie,
My thoughts are with you, big hugs to you and your family.
Posted by: Kima | January 18, 2010 at 05:29 AM
wow -- beautiful, deep and sacred...
Posted by: Michelle Shopped | January 18, 2010 at 07:10 AM
Beautiful!
And what a web of love your mother has created...
And look how far it reaches... over the world wide web.
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Posted by: Jessica | January 18, 2010 at 08:57 AM
What a warm and deeply moving post of the best send off a person could wish for. My heart goes out to you all. Wishing you all the best x
Posted by: Lesley | January 18, 2010 at 12:35 PM
Much love to your Margie - your eulogy is beautiful, and you are so lucky to be surrounded by such a wonderful family.
Posted by: geek+nerd | January 18, 2010 at 01:16 PM
So beautiful Margie... I left you a little video dedication at my blog. BIG hug.
Posted by: Geninne | January 18, 2010 at 02:15 PM
That was a beautiful way to honor your mom. I feel like I know her a little bit now. Hugs.
Posted by: Jennifer | January 18, 2010 at 02:21 PM
I feel so very blessed that you have shared your words with us. Thank you.
Posted by: Alison | January 18, 2010 at 02:59 PM
Your words leave me speechless. She was amazing, and she raised, with your father, amazing children too. Thank you so very much for having shared the threads of her life with us. Love you. xoxo
Posted by: Sonia | January 18, 2010 at 05:33 PM
A truly, loving tribute and beautiful eulogy. Wishing you peace.
Posted by: Holly | January 18, 2010 at 06:33 PM
Reading your wonderful words makes me feel as though I was there too. Thanks for putting the experience here for all of us to share. The warmth and strength of your family shines through in your images.
I'm smiling for Alice and will toast her too. Cheers :)
J x
Posted by: joanie | January 18, 2010 at 06:35 PM
Very Beautiful!
Posted by: Jill | January 18, 2010 at 06:59 PM
Hello
Its really very interesting to read this post about your family web.You have written this post very well.I like that you have shared this with us.
Posted by: micro sd | January 19, 2010 at 02:58 AM
what an amazing family you have, held together by that lovely mother alice. i think she is inspiring! thank you for sharing this all with us. xxx
Posted by: melissa | January 19, 2010 at 04:40 AM
There's so much love spreading from this spider web ...
A big hug to you.
Posted by: Mariella | January 19, 2010 at 06:22 AM
Thank you so much for sharing this memorial. I'm proud to have gotten to know Alice -- and your whole family -- a tiny bit through these words and pictures. What a blessing.
Posted by: Denise Felton | January 19, 2010 at 03:32 PM
What a beautiful tribute for a beautiful lady. And thank you for sharing this special moment with us. My thoughts are with you.
Posted by: nicole | January 20, 2010 at 08:15 AM
My dear friend,
After a very intense time over here with my family from Florida I came to visit you (I have had you and your Mom in my mind for all this time) and I found this beautiful, touching and deep memorial. I always knew that you and your beautiful family were going to give your Mom the gift of a "good funeral" as you said. Full of love and celebration for her remarkable life.
I have come to appreciate my Mom even more in the last week (she had some health scare during out trip to the mountains) Reading your words here makes me realize how lucky we are to have special Mothers that have left a deep mark in our lives.
I still remember the picture of your Mom wearing the pink bunny ears, that's how I see her, with a big smile, those sparkly eyes and pink bunny ears. Whenever she comes to visit you in your dreams please say hi to her for me. She has a special place in my heart even though we never met in person.
I send you a big hug!
And all my love!
Elsi :)
Posted by: Elsita :) | January 21, 2010 at 12:24 AM
I followed the link from geninne's blog and just letting you know you left me with a warmth in my heart! :)
Posted by: Kimmie | January 21, 2010 at 09:51 AM
What a beautiful tribute to your mother. I feel your loss but admire the strength with which you all celebrated her beautiful life.
Posted by: Teresa | February 07, 2010 at 09:43 AM